The initial display

Apprentice How I can relate with unsatisfactoriness without dwelling on it and becoming miserable?

Lamas Relate with the initial display of what you see—the very first glimpse. After that glimpse, simply abandon the commentary. Usually there is the initial insight, which is followed by a referential impulse—and then one begins to manipulate in terms of converting impressions into a pattern of concretised concept. If you can simply observe the initial flickering of unsatisfactoriness, if you can remain with the freshness and clarity of what you experience rather than the commentary, you will not require misery. The most important factor is disowning experience—in respect of referentiality. Eventually even the most insignificant experiences can be referentially disowned, and spaciousness becomes the predominant characteristic of whatever arises.